You can’t mess up God’s plans

“You can’t mess up God’s plans for your children.”

That is the most freeing truth I’ve ever heard.

I remember hearing “God has no grandchildren, they are all HIS children.”

We get the privilege as moms to participate in raising them but no matter what mistakes we make along the way or how many great things we may do, we need to remember they are ultimately HIS. There is the blessing of influence and the joy of impact but CONTROL is an illusion.

He decides. He controls. He created them and He will finish the job.

This was good news for me….the perfectionist. The one who always wanted to be super mom and do everything exactly right.

There is no perfect recipe to make them turn out the way we want.

What we can do is do our best, seek the Lord ourselves, teach them about salvation and the truths of the Word and continue to pray for them.


Do you wonder if you’re doing the right thing? Are you stressed and worried that you might be missing something vitally important? Remind yourself, in the midst of messed up flawed parenting, GRACE happens. (GRACE = (in Christian belief) the free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings.)

I am so thankful for GRACE.

Maybe you actually think you are doing a pretty good job. Just wait. (I’m thinking of the many times God used my children to humble me.)

Prov. 16:18 “Pride cometh before the fall.”

The good news is we can let go and trust Him because He’s got them and He will do as He sees fit in their lives….no matter what we HAVE done or HAVEN’T done.

The pressure’s off.

DSC_0337My daughter recently shared with me a wonderful app called ECHO. It’s an app that you can use to set a certain time every day to pray for people. When I hear that little “ding” I look at my phone and it reminds me to pray for one of my children or my husband right then. You can even create specific prayers for each person.


Hey all you parents out there…..Be released. IT’S NOT UP TO YOU.

Stay on your knees but remember, THEY ARE HIS.

He is in control.


Psalm 46:10 “Be still and KNOW that I am God.”

~ Basik Thoughts ~

* Listed below are just a few ways to pray for your children. Replace “they” with your child’s name.*


~ That they would personally receive the free gift of salvation. That they would understand that there is nothing they can do (perform) to gain Heaven. It’s not about them. They need to trust that Jesus paid it ALL on the cross for their sin.

~ That they would know God loves them and that He is sovereign over every detail of their life – the good, the happy, the hard, the ugly.

~ That they would seek the Lord in prayer for daily guidance, connect with Godly friends and desire to please God over man.

~ That they would be humble, kind, selfless and givers.

~ That they would forgive easily and not judge.

~ That they would have no idols. That “the things on earth would grow strangely dim” in their eyes.

~ That they would recognize their sin, confess it and move forward.

~ That they would be readers of the Word and doers of the Word.

~ That they would be equally yoked and marry Godly spouses.

~ That they would live lives that honor the Lord in all areas….mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.

1 Thessalonians 5:17 “pray without ceasing”



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